Glorious Moments, Disturbed

It should be the most glorious of moments.

Holding his grandson in his arms is the brightest of lights in Rob’s life. There’s no joy greater than the chance to “just love that child,” as Rob (not his real name) said recently.

But his son’s wife, his daughter-in-law, sits right next to him, glaring. She won’t leave the room while Rob holds his grandson. She won’t let him out of eyesight. She stays close enough to extract her child in an instant.

Rob has never done anything to hurt another person, certainly not his grandson. “I love that child with every bit of my heart,” he says.

But he feels the fear. He feels the judgment. He feels the absence of trust.

Rob has indeed hurt someone in the past—himself. [Continue reading]

Leading Integrated, Supportive Lives

In groups I'm co-facilitating in Chicago, discussing and supporting each other through common struggles quickly erases boundaries of race, age, gender, religion and sexual orientation. I feel the same way when I'm out on the trails. Everyone watches … [Continue reading]

13 Reasons Why Not on Suicide

For someone struggling in the depths of what seems inescapable mental health agony or tragic trauma, it’s easy enough to see suicide through a media lens. Often, suicide is shown as glamorized, predetermined escape pursued with a clear rationale and … [Continue reading]

My Post-Retirement Performance Report

Five years ago, I took a leap scarier than jumping out of a plane. It was the last day I had a boss other than the one I married. I'm grateful for these years, particularly for the chance to: Be flexible with my time so my wife's move 2-1/2 … [Continue reading]

Helping Employees Cope Through PTSD

While workplace bullying can lead to post-traumatic stress disorder in some employees, PTSD damages employee performance even when it originates outside work. PTSD causes are more wide-ranging and frequent than many believe. Sometimes, an … [Continue reading]

Coaching Employees Out of a Depression Spiral

It was at least a year too late when I realized that my firing of a talented, once-energetic employee didn’t need to happen. Her bubbly, sarcastic wit had turned at times malicious. Her engaging personality became more frequently sullen and … [Continue reading]

Stepping Up When Anxiety Shuts An Employee Down

(Part of a series written originally for mental health advocacy group NoStigmas.) If you manage a large team or even a few people over a number of years, chances are you’ve encountered an employee struggling with an anxiety disorder. React well as … [Continue reading]

Winning the Philosophical War Against ISIS & For Humanity

The throat-slitting murder of an 84-year-old Catholic priest today in France by two ISIS "soldiers" is just the latest in a horrific series of barbaric acts. We need to win the physical war against ISIS and other radical jihadist groups, but we also … [Continue reading]

Segregation Among Failures Triggering Bursts of Animosity

After the events of the past week, including last night's shootings in ‪#‎Dallas‬, I fear that my choice of 2040 as the setting for Melting Point 2040 didn't recognize how quickly our ongoing segregation could tear us apart. The prologue to that book … [Continue reading]

Common Complications for Muslims and Mental Illness

Political pandering driven to simplistic sloganeering is creating a common challenge for Muslims and mental illness sufferers. For Muslims in America, being perceived as sharing a common religion is an increasing burden following Orlando’s Pulse … [Continue reading]